A question from a child that’s sticks in my mind from my time as an educator at the Jewish Museum London, was ‘What is your favourite thing about being Jewish?’
My reply straight away was the fact that Jews all over the world are like a big family.
One Global Family: What Connects Jewish Communities?
This is true both technically and emotionally. We are an extended family of distant cousins who share ancestors and have DNA in common to prove it. A small but very spread out ethnic minority, making up only about 0.2% of the world’s population. But what about converts to Judaism you may ask? Just as an adopted child becomes 100% part of the family; so does a convert into the Jewish community. I told the child at the museum that I could travel the world and be welcomed into Jewish homes for Shabbat meals etc wherever I went, just as a cousin you have never met may be welcomed, and speak to them in Hebrew if we didn’t speak the same first language.
Why Community Matters: Belonging Beyond Borders
This sense of worldwide community is unusual and I feel lucky to be part of it. This link also means that when tragedy strikes, the whole community worldwide is affected. I was just as affected by the attack on Jews on Bondi Beach, Australia as I was by the attack the synagogue down the road to me in Manchester this year.
Shabbat, Festivals and Growing Up Together
RE teachers have often commented to me that the focus on family and community in Jewish life is clear and something to be celebrated. Shabbat and festivals regularly give Jews opportunity to spend quality time together; generally around a table, and often without the distraction of phones and gadgets. A non -Jewish Zumba teacher who over years has taught and got to know many of the ladies in her very Jewish neighborhood commented that she noticed a higher level of maturity with the Jewish 18-20 year olds. She put this down to them being raised spending time talking to people of all ages, relatives and guests, around tables for Shabbat and festive meals, discussing ‘the meaning of life, the universe and everything’… Even for secular or cultural Jews, quality family time – often a Friday night family dinner or getting extended family together for Rosh Hashanah (Jewish New Year), is non-negotiable.
Food, Memory and Meaning in Jewish Life
This leads me onto the subject of food – which I suspect may be the answer many Jews would give to the above question! We have foods for all occasions – for happy times, for sad times. Sometimes symbolic, sometimes just delicious. Someone could easily do a PHD on different foods eaten by Jews in different countries, for different special occasions and how those recipes developed. I’m sure someone has! There is saying that explains the pattern many Jewish festivals follow – ‘They tried to kill us, we survived, let’s eat!’
As a child, my favorite festival was Passover, mainly because that is when my birthday is, but the foods eaten on Passover are very distinct – making it feel very different to the other 51 weeks of the year. The smell of my family’s haroset – a strong appley, cinnamony, nutty paste, with a kick of sweet red wine, is so distinct that I can close my eyes and imagine it right now. Spread that on crunchy, plain, matza cracker and you have a weird but winning combo. Food reminds us of our heritage and our past, helps us enjoy the moment and gives us the energy to continue into the future – mirroring that Judaism values the past – telling the same stories on an annual cycle so that we learn from them and never forget our roots. Judaism gives us a framework to live our daily lives by, pointing out what is important, but also encourages us to act to improving the future.
About
Anna Silver is the Education Officer for the Board of Deputies of British Jews. She has taught at primary, secondary and SEN schools, both Jewish and community schools, including being Jewish Studies Lead in a pluralistic Jewish primary school. She was an educator at the Jewish Museum London, and for several years taught art to children and adults, some with mental health, EAL and neurodiversity.